Nobody stays married anymore. Have you noticed this too, or is it just me? That’s why I say 20 is the new 50 because if you hear of someone being for 20 years this day and age it’s like being married for 50 back in the day.
I heard something on TV yesterday and it kind of rubbed me the wrong way. Someone quoted someone else saying that divorce wasn’t an option in their situation (which I agree with wholeheartedly). Some of the people in the discussion agreed with this and some didn’t. Those who didn’t reasoned that people change and that you shouldn’t base your happiness for the rest of your life on one promise. WHAT? Um, yeah you kinda should. Since when are promises not supposed to be kept?
When you stand before God and everybody and say your vows, that’s a big deal folks. A very big deal. That ‘promise’ you are making is a promise to God, your spouse and all the people at your wedding that you will forsake all others, be there for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, til death do you part! Or whatever your vows say. Maybe that’s why people write their own vows these days instead of reciting the traditional ones. Maybe they don’t want to be held accountable to those promises. The problem is that too many people look at marriage as a piece of paper, a contract that can simply be broken if things go wrong or someone decides they aren’t happy with the things are going. Marriage is not simply a contract, it is a covenant between three people, God and the two people getting married. {Let me say here that I know there are valid reasons to get out of a marriage…if you are being abused you absolutely should not stay in that kind of situation.}
Buster and I are celebrating 20 years this year and considering everything we’ve been through, it is truly by the grace of God. Marriage is not always easy. It gets ugly, it’s hard work and you don’t always want to stay in it. But when you put in the hard work and you fight for it, what you have real. What you have is genuine. What you have is AMAZING. What you have is a closeness that is beyond anything you ever imagined.
We decided that we wanted to have a vow renewal ceremony to celebrate our 20th anniversary. And since we didn’t have a real honeymoon the first time around, we thought it would be nice to go on one after our vow renewal ceremony. So we started planning the ceremony and started searching for cheap vacation packages because hey, when you live and work full-time at a Christian camp like we do, the fundage is limited, ya’ll. But we love it and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else!
After some thought, though we decided we are going to just take a mini-moon (like 3-4 days) and save up for a family vacation, since we’ve never taken one of those really either. So we are going to take a trip to Florida or California or maybe out west. We haven’t nailed down the destination yet, but we know we want to take a family vacation.
What are your thoughts on marriage? Do you believe marriage is forever?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
Leave your answers in the comments please…
Hugs and Prayers, Jo xoxo
