Safety First!
Posted on January 31, 2012I have to say, although I am getting better at it, I am one of those nervous mothers. I used to be really bad. Gasping any time the little ones looked like they were going to dart for the road. Or flipping out when they fell and bumped their head, even though they didn’t cry (until I made a fuss about it).
As my kidlets have gotten older, I have gotten better. After the first one, it actually got better anyway. I think that’s pretty normal. With the first one, you lecture everyone about how they need to baby proof everything before you can visit. You make sure they have everything taken care of from the knob locks to the pool safety covers. It’s quite ridiculous the measures you go to to ensure the safety of the first child. By the time the second and third come along, it’s old hat and you have chilled out quite a bit.
Your friends and family don’t dread having you come over for fear that you are going to sanitize everything your child will come in contact with including their dog. And they don’t have to worry that you are going to ask them to ‘please put away your figurines so I don’t have to tell my child no’. For the record, I do not do this but I have had people come to my home and ask me to do this and no, I’m not kidding.
Anywho, now that one is in heaven and is quite safe and the other is 15, I don’t worry nearly as much about them getting hurt while playing. At least not like that. Now I worry about ‘The Girl’ getting a Volleyball or Track injury. Or heaven forbid when she does end up taking drivers ed and getting her license, her getting in a fender bender….
Crap!
The Light At The End Of The Tunnel…
Posted on December 22, 2011I hope I am seeing it. The light at the end of the tunnel. Not the one you see when you are dying. No, I’m not suicidal, calm down! The one you see at the end of a long journey or trial.
‘The Girl’ has been having some issues at school. Some bullying issues. Harassment by some kids. Some rumors have been started. Some slander of her good name has ensued. I have been quite distressed over this and so has she.
We had a talk with the correct authorities and we are hoping that things will calm down now. As of the last couple days of school, things were still happening that were bothersome, but the principle at the school was taking care of it.
I am glad that he seems to be on top of things. When I told him ‘The Girl’ was so upset about recent things that she didn’t even want to go to school there anymore, he was surprised and seemed genuinely concerned. He also wanted to quickly resolve the problem so that ‘The Girl’ felt safe and happy at school. And since she spends the majority of her day there 5 days a week about 8 1/2 – 9 months out of the year, that sounded like a good plan to me!
With my daughter’s bubbly, friendly spirit, bullying is something I never thought I would have to deal with. But here I am smack dab in the middle of it.
It is not okay to bully someone just because you feel threatened by them in some way, people. If they have a stronger friendship with someone than you, SO WHAT! You can have more than one friend at a time. And it’s okay that they spend more time with someone else sometimes! You wanna know why their bond is stronger?? Because one lost their father and the other lost her brother. That’s why their friendship is so strong. They have a special bond that most people can’t understand because they haven’t had the kind of loss and pain these girls have been through. And hopefully they never will!
But instead of trying to understand them, let’s start rumors about them and cause problems! Yeah that is always a good idea. I just don’t understand high school drama.
If it doesn’t end, I will take it to the police and I will pull her from the school. A little over a year ago we had a scare with ‘The Girl’ with some depression and some scary stuff and I’m not about to sit and watch her spiral out of control again. I won’t do it.
So to all those out there who think it’s fun to start rumors and call names and just be punks in general. It’s not OK. How would you like it if someone did it to you? And you can puff out your chest and say it wouldn’t bother you at all ALL.YOU.WANT. But it would. It would bother you if you had to dread going to school every day because you never knew what new thing was going to be said about you. Or what new person was going to threaten to beat the crap out of you. It’s not fun! It needs to stop! It will stop! One way or the other, IT.WILL.STOP.
We can end this with police involvement or without, it’s your choice. I am a very reasonable person. But I am done being the nice, happy go lucky person who is everyone’s friend. Not that we can’t be friend’s, but this is my child you are messing with, so if you are gonna mess with my kid, we can’t be friends! You have brought out the Mama Bear in me.
You think I’m bluffing? Try me!
Seven Years Ago Today…
Posted on November 05, 2011Seven years ago today my life turned upside down.
Seven years ago today my life turned inside out.
Seven years ago today my worst nightmare came true.
Seven years ago today I had to say good bye to my ten year old son forever (worldly speaking, that is).
Seven years ago today God took that precious boy home to live with Him and forever changed me. I wish I could say it was for the better, but I just don’t know that I can. Maybe some day…
I know God has a reason for everything he does. Things don’t just randomly happen, I know that deep down, I do!! But I just feel so broken sometimes. Sometimes I just feel like there is nothing that can fix this, ya know?
But God can…
He won’t bring Eli back, it’s not that He can’t, but He won’t. There is a reason. We don’t know why, but it’s for our own good that we suffer. I know it sounds strange, but there MUST be something good that comes from this or it wouldn’t be happening.
I know that’s how God works. I feel God working in my life. Most times I feel the energy He puts off like I can reach out and touch it! It’s awesome and I love it. I love to tell others about Jesus and what He’s done for them!!
Other times I feel like it’s this crazy roller coaster and I just wanna get off for a while cause it’s making me dizzy and sick! Like it’s all just too much. I think that is the devil just wanting me to give up!
Well, I just want to tell the devil, you can’t have me…I am on the winning side! I have Jesus and so did my son!
So for all those out there who have lost those you love or who are suffering in some way, please, don’t suffer alone. God loves you and He sent His son to show you that! Please see My Romans Road page for more information!!
Thinking…
Posted on October 03, 2011Some times I think about what could have been if I had done things differently. Do you ever do that? It can be a bad thing. It can be good, too, I guess. If you aren’t careful, it can be very dangerous. We cannot change the past, friends. We can only move forward and not make the same mistakes we made in the past.
When my son was a still a baby, I decided to go to school to be a Medical Assistant. it was a 13 month program. I loved it. I graduated with honors! Turns out I was really good at it and actually knew what I was doing!
The only problem was that just before graduation, I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, which wouldn’t have been a problem, except when I had her, I got really sick and never got to go to work.
In fact, I was so sick, my husband had to take several weeks off of work to take care of my daughter and I. So, I never got to go to work in a Dr.’s office and I never got to shop for cute discount medical uniforms. It’s all very sad, I know. It makes me wonder what I could have done with my life had I made different choices. Had I decided to go on meds before I did, I may have been able to get a job AND raise my kids, maybe not…I guess we will never know.
I am all about not second guessing yourself. I AM all about giving thing to God allowing Him to carry your burdens and moving on with life, because He allows things to happen for a reason. I am also all about allowing yourself to breath and relax and enjoy life and not sweat the small stuff.
So, when you get to thinking about all the things you could or should have done, relax and breath, if it should have happened, it would have happened, God makes no mistakes!! 
She’s not my “little” girl anymore….
Posted on June 15, 2011Well, we recently went through a rough spot, you might call it, with our daughter, but she seems to be coming around now. She’s 14…need I say more?? Probably not…
She has always been a good child and always wanted to please her dad and I, but lately, she has wanted to do her own thing and didn’t really care what we had to say about it. It was really kind of exasperating. She felt like we were being unfair and refused to see our point of view about a situation.
My husband prayed with her and had her do some praying and extra bible reading and I really think she is coming around now. I am thankful that she does have a tender heart and that she has a heart for God and want to do right.
Although My husband and I are far from perfect parents, we have raised our daughter right and she knows what she is supposed to be doing and not supposed to be doing and I just have to trust that if we lovingly but firmly guide her back when she begins to stray that God will keep her where she needs to be. So far so good, I will continue to pray for her and guide her the best I can and leave the rest up to God…
Question for you…
Posted on June 07, 2011Question:
A friend of your child’s is encouraging him/her to do things he/she AND this friend know are against the rules you have set for your child (and are also against the rules his/her parents have set, by the way).
Do you let them continue to be friends?
How long do you allow them to be friends?
What I mean is how long do you allow your child to be friends with someone who continually does and says things to encourage your child to disobey and disrespect you and your rules?
This child is, by the way, the ONLY child that your child has these kinds of behavior issues with. All his/her other friendships are healthy, normal relationships that do not push or break any boundaries or rules set by parents…
Thanks for your insight…
Genesis 4
Posted on April 29, 2011Genesis 4:1 “….I have gotten a man from the Lord.” What a thought.
Do we realize that our children truly are a gift from God?? I don’t think we appreciate that fact enough!!
Through all the pains of labor, the early morning feedings, the “terrible twos”, those trying times of preadolescence , all the way through those awkward teenage years. We should keep in mind that our children are in fact A GIFT from God!!
I think I will remind myself of that the next time I want to throttle “the girl” for being sassy or not cleaning her room!! Because she truly is a gift from God, truly!!
Please remember to be thankful for every second you have with your children. I have always been thankful for the time I have had with mine. My son was taken to heaven at the age of 10, and though I have never been a perfect parent (never will be), I have never had to think to myself , “I wish I would have said I love you more”, or “I hope he knew I loved him”. Praise the Lord for that!!
Today, take a moment to let your children know that you love them and what a blessing they really are, even when they are driving you to drink and/or go bald or gray or both!!!
Struggles…
Posted on February 28, 2011As you can probably tell from my last post, I suffer from low self esteem, I think I always have. I have never thought myself worthy of any one’s love or affection.
I guess it all stems from my childhood. As a child, I moved around a lot. I was in the care of my mother, my grandparents, my dad, my other grandmother (and my dad together), my dad and step-mom, and finally a babysitter who eventually adopted me.
I didn’t have much stability or consistency growing up and I think it made me wonder what was so wrong with me that no one wanted to stick around. Whether that was actually the reason for people coming into and then leaving my life, that’s what it felt like.
All my life I felt like a burden. The people who didn’t leave, didn’t do me any favors by staying. Sometimes it’s better to just let go. If you can’t build someone up and love them and make them feel wanted, then why bother? Isn’t that what parents are supposed to do?? Do whatever they can to make their kids feel wanted and loved??
And aren’t we supposed to teach our kids?? Teach them what is right and what is wrong?? Teach them not only by telling them what to do, but also by example?? ”Train them up in the way they should go”…isn’t that what the Bible says??
When will we realize that what we “do” to our children has a direct result on “what” and who they become? I realize that we do make our own choices and can’t hold others responsible for our actions, but there is no denying that our upbringing does affect “who” we are!! Everything we go through makes up who we are…it’s important to be good to those we love and put into them what we wish to get out…
Science Fair!!
Posted on May 04, 2010So, pumpkin_seed’s new school hasn’t had their Science Fair yet, which is kinda weird. Her old school had theirs a couple weeks ago. Every year for the last like 7 ( 9 if you include my sons) we have had to go and buy one of those three sided cardboard display boards and come up with a subject to do a project on. This year we have not been asked to do that. This close to school ending, I am wondering if we even will??? This is just one of the few things I miss about her old school 
Maybe next year??
pumpkin_seed
Posted on May 04, 2010thought i would take this opportunity to brag on my kid for a minute!!! LOL pumpkin_seed is running track for the first time this year. she is 13. i think this was her 2nd meet. she ran the 70m dash, the 100m dash and the long jump in both meets. last meet she didn’t place in anything. this time pumpkin_seed placed 3rd in her heat for the 70m, and 5th for the 70m overall in the meet for the girls!! that is not too shabby for a new runner!! she thinks 5th place isn’t that good, but i think its great!!
she didn’t place in the 100m, but i told her practice makes perfect and she just needs to get in better shape and build up her muscles and stuff.
for long jump, she didn’t place either. BUT she improved her jump by SIX inches from the first jump to the last!! they get three jumps and they take the best distance to compete with. her first two were exactly the same. 10′ 3 1/4″ each. before her last jump i had her watch the other girls. then i gave her some tips. i told her she has to literally “jump” off the board. her last steps should be heavy , into the board and she has to launch herself off. before that she has just been kinda flinging herself off the end. lol so she tried it and she got 10′ 9″!!!! not the longest distance (14′ 2″) but a great improvement on what she had been jumping, which is what is important!!
with practice and hard work, she will improve on everything, and even if she isnt the best at any of it, she will have at least tried her hardest and kept herself in good shape!!!
good job, baby girl, i couldn’t be any more proud!! keep up the good work!! LOVE YOU!!!
Only a mother could know…
Posted on April 03, 2009Got this in my e-mail this morning…thanks Mom!!!
THIS IS PRICELESS!!!!
ONLY A MOTHER WOULD KNOW…..
Cup of Tea
One day my mother was out and my dad was in charge of me.
I was maybe 2 1/2 years old.
Someone had given me a little ‘tea set’ as a gift and it was one of my favorite toys.
Daddy was in the living room engrossed in the evening news when I
brought Daddy a little cup of ‘tea‘, which was just water.
After several cups of tea and lots of praise for such yummy tea, my Mom came home.
My Dad made her wait in the living room to watch me bring him a cup of
tea, because it was ‘just the cutest thing!’
My Mom waited, and sure enough, here I come down the hall with a cup of tea for
Daddy and she watches him drink it up.
Then she says, (as only a mother would know…)
‘Did it ever occur to you that the only place she can reach to
get water is the toilet?’
TAT and TIT or is it TIT and TAT??? LOL
Posted on December 16, 2008
AND
Since these”carnivals” can be just about something we want to talk about, I thought I would see if I could get you involved a little bit this week!!!
Who wants to “tackle ” this question…
What is this??
Why would I take a picture of this??? What would this mean to me??? Let me tell you that I have had this on my fridge for just over 4 years. Anyone who reads my blog should have gotten a hint from that statement. Come on all you “lurkers”, leave me a comment telling me what you think this is….Next TAT and TIT, I will tell you what this is and what it means to me!!
To join in on the Talk About Tuesday and Tackle It Tuesday fun, visit Lara’s blog (Lazy Organizer) and The Twins (5MinutesForMom)!!! Happy TAT and TIT **giggles**!!!
