Safety First!
Posted on January 31, 2012I have to say, although I am getting better at it, I am one of those nervous mothers. I used to be really bad. Gasping any time the little ones looked like they were going to dart for the road. Or flipping out when they fell and bumped their head, even though they didn’t cry (until I made a fuss about it).
As my kidlets have gotten older, I have gotten better. After the first one, it actually got better anyway. I think that’s pretty normal. With the first one, you lecture everyone about how they need to baby proof everything before you can visit. You make sure they have everything taken care of from the knob locks to the pool safety covers. It’s quite ridiculous the measures you go to to ensure the safety of the first child. By the time the second and third come along, it’s old hat and you have chilled out quite a bit.
Your friends and family don’t dread having you come over for fear that you are going to sanitize everything your child will come in contact with including their dog. And they don’t have to worry that you are going to ask them to ‘please put away your figurines so I don’t have to tell my child no’. For the record, I do not do this but I have had people come to my home and ask me to do this and no, I’m not kidding.
Anywho, now that one is in heaven and is quite safe and the other is 15, I don’t worry nearly as much about them getting hurt while playing. At least not like that. Now I worry about ‘The Girl’ getting a Volleyball or Track injury. Or heaven forbid when she does end up taking drivers ed and getting her license, her getting in a fender bender….
Crap!
She’s not my “little” girl anymore….
Posted on June 15, 2011Well, we recently went through a rough spot, you might call it, with our daughter, but she seems to be coming around now. She’s 14…need I say more?? Probably not…
She has always been a good child and always wanted to please her dad and I, but lately, she has wanted to do her own thing and didn’t really care what we had to say about it. It was really kind of exasperating. She felt like we were being unfair and refused to see our point of view about a situation.
My husband prayed with her and had her do some praying and extra bible reading and I really think she is coming around now. I am thankful that she does have a tender heart and that she has a heart for God and want to do right.
Although My husband and I are far from perfect parents, we have raised our daughter right and she knows what she is supposed to be doing and not supposed to be doing and I just have to trust that if we lovingly but firmly guide her back when she begins to stray that God will keep her where she needs to be. So far so good, I will continue to pray for her and guide her the best I can and leave the rest up to God…
Back To The Spanking Discussion…
Posted on February 17, 2011Why is it that people are so against biblical discipline? The Bible says some very direct things about spanking children to correct them. I think if more people took their parenting advice from the Bible and/or godly counsel, we would have a lot less problems with our kids today…
(Proverbs 13:24, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15)
Children who are not disciplined in the correct manner more often than not, turn out to be rebellious, having no respect for authority and since they cannot submit to their “earthly” authority, they often have difficulty submitting to their ultimate authority, God.
Someone recently made a comment about adults (spouses) being brought up on charges for such behavior…PLEASE!! Spanking a child and physically abusing your spouse are two very different things!!! And spanking your child should be very different than physically abusing them!!! Also it was said that spanking creates anger and anger gets in the way of learning…both my children were spanked as young children and both of them are very well behaved and very smart so I’m not sure that is accurate.
Let me make it clear that I do not think a teacher should be allowed to spank a child, especially in a public school! But I think it’s every parent’s God given right to spank their child.
I’ve said it before and I will say it again, if done CORRECTLY this can be a very effective way of correcting unwanted/bad behaviour. If done incorrectly, it can lead to a bad attitude, anger and disrespect. Spanking should never be done as way to vent or take out frustration.
Here is something I read online and I agree with whole-heartedly …”Discipline is used to correct and train people to go in the right way. No discipline is pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11)
”God’s discipline is loving, as should it be between parent and child. Physical discipline should never be used to cause lasting physical harm or pain. Physical punishment should always be followed immediately by comforting the child with assurance that he/she is loved. These moments are the perfect time to teach a child that God disciplines us because He loves us and that, as parents, we do the same for our children.”
Now, that being said… other forms of discipline, such as “time-outs,” can be used instead of physical discipline. Parents often find that their children do not respond well to spankings . Some parents find that “time-outs,” grounding, and/or taking something away from the child can be more effective in encouraging behavioral change. If that is the case, a parent should employ the best methods for the needed behavioral change. While the Bible undeniably advocates spanking, I think God is more concerned with the goal of building godly character than the particular method used.
I asked my daughter if she thought she or her brother were abused in any way (they were both spanked when needed when young children) and she said no way. I asked her if she thought she would spank her kids if and when she has them and she said absolutely, no question. My son wrote letters to me, Buster and Pumpkin_seed the night before he died (he was 10 when he was killed in an auto-accident) and he actually thanked Buster for spanking him when he needed it!!! A 10 year old boy said that!! I think that says it all right there…he didn’t feel angry or upset or abused, he was THANKFUL!!!
quotes KJV Bible and this source
Blue Monday!!!
Posted on December 08, 2008
At the moment, I think this is my favorite blue item!! This is Pumpkins_seeds school picture from this year. She is growing up so fast!!
For more Blue Monday findings, visit SmilingSally!! HAPPY BLUE MONDAY!!
UPDATE! UPDATE!
Posted on December 04, 2008Pumpkin_seed got to play in her first official Volleyball game Tuesday night. She has only really had problems with serving. Everything else she is pretty good at. She served 3 times that night and made it over the net twice!! They play up to 5 sets (best 3 of 5). Each set except the last goes to 25 points. The deciding set only goes to 15, and each set they have to win by 2 points. Well, it started off kinda scary!! They lost. But then they won. Then they lost again. Then finally, they won the last 2 sets!! So, they won the overall game!!! WAHOO!!! I am so proud of my Pumpkin_seed!!!
Talk About Tuesday~~What I saw on GMA!!!
Posted on November 18, 2008
Just so you all know, this is not a paid post or review!! I just happened to see this on Good Morning America this morning. Actually, I was trying to decide what I wanted to do my Talk About Tuesday post about today and then I saw it….right on my television!!
Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon.com, finally listened to the public and started a campaign to change the packaging on toys they sell. You know, the packages that you have to have a chain saw or a jack hammer to get into. I don’t know how many times I have sliced myself open trying to get a package open. Everything from batteries to Barbies is packaged in that hard plastic that you have to have a 25 year college degree to get into without hurting yourself or someone else! UUUGGHHH!!
Well, have you won’t have to put up with it to much longer. Some products, from what I hear have already been packaged differently. Jeff says they are starting with the most popular items first and working their way down to all products sold!! WWOOOHHOOO I will no longer dread opening gifts!!
Wordful Wednesday~~Pumpkin_seed
Posted on November 12, 2008happily posted in cooperation with angie over at: 
This is my 100th post!!! And I’m so glad to be sharing it as a Wordful Wednesday Post!!! This is Pumpkin_seed’s school picture for this year. She looks so grown up and beautiful, if I do say so myself. And no, I.am.not.biased.at.all!! ok, maybe just a little, but don’t judge me, you would be too!!
Happy Birthday to My Darling H
Posted on October 24, 2008
I am the proud Mama of a 12 year-old!!!! I can’t believe it’s been that long!! She has grown up so fast!! I couldn’t be more proud of the “little lady” she is becoming!! She is still scrawny, but she is getting taller!! She’ll be taller than me in no time (course, that doesn’t take much, but….). I love her so much, I can’t put it into words, but I wanted to tel her something today…I’ll let her read this later….
To my darling 12 year old. I fell in love with you when I was three months pregnant with you. I hadn’t even laid eyes on you yet. Didn’t even know for sure if you were a girl or a boy. But I had a feeling you were a girl. MY girl. I thought of all the things we would do together. How I would braid your hair and teach you how to sit, talk, and act like a lady. I thought about dressing you up in ribbons and ruffles, all in pink, how we would have tea parties with your dolls and stuffed animals. How someday you would go to school and how proud I would be, and I was.
I thought about how you would eventually like boys and what I would tell you when you did. Well, things have changed a lot since then and you do like boys!! Well, just one that I know of. I know you smile whenever you say his name and I know are excited to think that he might like you, too. You have the rest of your life to enjoy these things, please don’t be in a hurry to grow up. You only get to be a child once and only for a short time. I know it seems like it takes for ever to be a grown up and there are rules and chores and school and it seems like a lot, but you wait, one day you will wish for the days when you were a kid!! Just remember, my sweet girl, if he’s right for you it will happen in God’s time.
Remember that you can always talk to me about anything no matter what!! I will always be your biggest fan and nothing you could say or do will ever change that. Please remember that Daddy and I make rules to keep you safe from harm and to keep you happy in the long run. Remember your purity (mind, body and soul) should be held close and dear to you. Besides your salvation it is your most treasured “possession” at this point in your life. Keep It!! Now , go out there with God’s grace and show the world what you’re made of!! I love you today, tomorrow, and always!!! Happy Birthday sweety, Hugs and Prayers… Love Mommy…
say what??
Posted on September 26, 2008
JACK (3) was watching his Mom breast-feeding his new baby sister. After a while he asked: “Mom why have you got two? Is one for hot and one for cold milk?”
MELANIE (5) asked her Granny how old she was. Granny replied she was so old she didn’t remember any more. Said Melanie, “If you don’t remember you must look in the back of your panties. Mine say five to six.”
STEVEN (3) hugged and kissed his Mom goodnight. “I love you so much, that when you die I’m going to bury you outside my bedroom window.”
BRITTANY (4) had an earache and wanted a painkiller. She tried in vain to take the lid off the bottle. Seeing her frustration, her Mom explained it was a childproof cap and she’d have to open it for her. Eyes wide with wonder, the little girl asked: “How does it know it’s me?
SUSAN (4) was drinking juice when she got the hiccups. “Please don’t give me this juice again,” she said, “It makes my teeth cough.”
DANI (4) stepped onto the bathroom scale and asked: “How much do I cost?”
MARC (4) was engrossed in a young couple that were hugging and kissing in a restaurant. Without taking his eyes off them, he asked his dad: “Why is he whispering in her mouth?”
CLINTON (5) was in his bedroom looking worried. When his Mom asked what was troubling him, he replied, “I don’t know what’ll happen with this bed when I get married. How will my wife fit in?
JAMES (4) was listening to a Bible story. His dad read: “The man named Lot was warned to take his wife and flee out of the city but his wife looked back and was turned to salt.” Concerned, James asked: “What happened to the flea?”
TAMMY (4) was with her mother when they met an elderly, rather wrinkled woman her Mom knew. Tammy looked at her for a while and then asked, “Why doesn’t your skin fit your face?”
THE SERMON
I think this Mom will never forget this particular Sunday sermon…
“Dear Lord,” the minister began, with arms extended toward heaven and a rapturous look on his upturned face.
“Without you, we are but dust.” He would have continued but at that moment my very obedient daughter (who was listening!) leaned over to me and asked quite audibly in her shrill little girl voice,
“Mom, what is butt dust?”